The Struggle To Be Good Enough
In life we all have a struggle to be good enough. Whether that be from our parents, that hot boy, other women, society, or in a sport. This struggle to be good enough often leads us to do out of the ordinary things. Whether that be studying all hours of the night to get that perfect grade, spending an extra hour on the tread mill so that we can fit into that dress to look attractive for that guy, working overtime so we can buy the latest trends so that we can fit in. Whatever it is, we all have a desire to be good enough for someone or something.
No matter how many times we have tried to be good enough, is it really ever enough? Are we ever skinny enough, pretty enough for that hot guy, athletic enough, smart enough or trendy enough? No matter how much we try, there is always a prettier girl, someone more talented athletically then us, someone who gets the better grade, or someone who is more fashionable. This constant striving to be enough in whatever capacity that is, leaves us exhausted, and depletes our self worth. When we study so hard for a test, and don’t make the grade, it leaves us feeling incapable and not smart enough. When we work out to get thin so that we can get that hot guys attention, and when he doesn’t give us that attention, it leaves us feeling unworthy. When we train so hard in athletics to make the team, and when we don’t make it, it leaves us feeling like a failure. When we go shopping to get the latest trends, and when we see another girl at school who is more fashion forward then us, it leaves us feeling defeated.
These constant scales and measuring sticks we try to measure up to, to feel good enough, valued enough, and pretty enough, leave us with nothing but emptiness at the end of the day. When will any women ever be athletic enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, or fashion forward enough? These constant standards society gives us are unreachable and unattainable, so that we can keep coming back for more. Most women feel unworthy, incapable, with low self esteem on a regular basis, because of these unrealistic standards society gives us.
So what is our solution to all of this? When we can learn how to see ourselves through God’s eyes, then we will begin to see that we are more then enough just as we are. We don’t have to win homecoming queen, be the most fashion forward, or the smartest to be valuable in His eyes. Our worth in His eyes was defined on the cross when He died for us. You can’t put a price on something that is priceless, and that is what we are in His eyes, priceless. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t seek to take care of ourselves, and have goals in life. What it does mean, is that we should seek to understand that by us not measuring up to society’s expectations, it doesn’t mean we don’t have value. Our value isn’t found in us being good enough or not being good enough for society. Its found in the eyes of the one who calls is perfect, beautiful, loved, treasured, and valued all the time..our creator JESUS CHRIST.
Written by Christina Boudreau founder of Beauty Has No Size
Christina is passionate about restoring value, purpose, identity and beauty to the young women of this generation. Follow- @beauty_hasnosize